Saturday, 6 December 2014

Olivia's Catastrophe ~ Introverted

Hello!

Welcome to that start of my discussion series, which I have adequately called Olivia’s Catastrophe because it will mainly be things I find are debatable topics or problems I have… etc
 
Today I will be discussing being introverted! Now, I know that many of the people on the blogger world are actually extroverts and won’t be able to relate as much, but I also know that a lot of them are introverts as well… just like me. If any of you are interested in the MBIT test, then you will know that I am an INFJ – one of the most introverted personalities you can get.

I first started seeing being introverted as a problem a while back. I never thought about it much, but at some point I simply stopped going to school parties, stopped going over to friends as much and missed out on a lot of social gatherings. It can make you feel left out the next day, and it can make you feel really guilty about it. Sometimes I even hate myself for not going because I feel like I should’ve been there. But should I really be forcing myself to go? It’s always the question.

In the summer I went to China by myself. Being only fifteen, it was a pretty big step for me. I just had to trust that God was with me. For a while I had been praying to be more extroverted – and little did I know that God had answered it by giving me a chance to be more confident in myself. I had to learn to ask strangers for help, make friends with people I didn’t know at all because I was alone on the program and I learned to be a lot more social. With the full time schedule I blended in with any extrovert.  When I came home I needed three days to myself holed up in my room, but it showed me that I can do it.

Some days I will prefer reading a book over going out with my friends (even though I love them all.) Some days I chill with friends and talk easily. Some days I just want to stay home and curl up in bed. I will always need my alone time. But now I realise it is okay to be introverted and it is part of who I am.
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Olivia’s Question: Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What is one thing that clearly defines you as one or the other?

Olivia-Savannah x

48 comments:

  1. I'm an introvert!! AND PROUD. Although I spent all my childhood with super-extroverted friends and they (unknowingly) really pushed and encouraged me to be extroverted. It was kind of shamed to be introverted, and it's only when I got into my later teens/twenties that I realised that it's okay to be shy and needing time alone. God made me this way. *nods* You went to CHINA by yourself?!! OH MY GOSH. I've been to China with my family and I was so so overwhelmed! I can't even imagine going by myself. So. many. people.
    I'm an INTJ but my best friend is an INFJ...or P. I think? hehe.
    Introverts unite! (Quietly in our own bedrooms.xD)
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    1. Yay for being proud! I have a feeling a lot of people who were introverted didn't really want to be, and think being an extrovert is better. But they're just different, that's all really. It's perfectly fine to be an introvert :) I know! That place is jam packed with people. But it sounds like Sydney was as well, for you ;)

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  2. I have never been introverted. I love talking to people and meeting new people and just chatting with strangers in bars. I'll never be tired of it - then again, I find that a lot of people don't like me very much because I'm too all over the place, but you know what, I can't really do anything about that, so who cares?
    Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert doesn't really matter, as long as you treat people nicely.

    - Love, Felicia
    ( http://asillygirlsthoughts.weebly.com/ )

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    1. Just keep on being yourself, because being yourself is awesome <3 And I am sure you pick up a lot of friends by being open and talking to everyone! I also completely agree, being nice and kind tops everything!

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  3. I am both a introvert and extrovert. I don't like hanging around people for long, but once I am in a social situation, I am fun and loud.

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    1. I think these kind of people are the coolest people! You definitely get the best of both worlds ;)

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  4. Really admire that you put all of your trust in God for the China trip! I'm currently feeling a calling to Mexico in 2016 to help on a mission trip. One issue: I am so scared of spiders! Mexico is known for all of it's spiders - I definitely have to pray more on it and trust God whole-heartedly! <3

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    1. I hope you get to go! I am also really scared of spiders, and some people told me there were enough to make me petrified in China as well. But with all faith, you should be fine! Don't let the fear hold you back ^^

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    2. Thank you ♥ we're in tents in Mexico which will be challenging in itself but I know that it's something God is calling me for so I gotta overcome the fear with faith :)

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    3. Oh wow, we were in dormitories when we were in China! I think tents will make it more difficult but you can do it!

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  5. I think I'm combination of both - at some situations I have no problem being the loudest in the room, but sometimes I just want everyone to leave me alone.

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    1. Being both is awesome! It means you can relate to everyone at times. But of course, it's more than perfect because it's also you being yourself.

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  6. I'm most definitely an introvert! Even though, I think I've gotten better at it, I still find it very stressful to talk to people I don't know. Truth be told, if someone doesn't talk to me first, I won't talk to them. I just don't want to make a fool out of myself. And I don't how it is for you, but I found it easier to be by myself because when I'm with people I don't know, I'm always wondering if I'm saying the right thing, I'm always looking for something to say, so that there isn't one of these awkward silence.

    OMG, you went to China all by yourself? You're courageous! What type of programme was it? Did you learn a bit of Chinese?

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    1. Sometimes it can be hard to talk to people you don't know. I found that sometimes (as cheesy as it is) it helps to pretend I am more confident book character and it gives me that extra boost I need to go out and pretend I always saying the right thing. It comes easier after a while.

      It was a summer camp programme where we had life groups and did a lot of interesting bond activities. Afterwards I made friends for life. I learned quite bit... then came back and forgot it all! :P But I definitely want to learn someday :3

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  7. I've always known I was introverted. I used to hate the title because I felt that people viewed me as being a snob (which I'm not BTW). Now, as I find more people who classify themselves as introverted, I don't feel too bad about it. I can socialize, but I love finding a cozy place to read with just me, myself, and I. :)

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    1. You definitely don't seem like a snob, Diane. And although it is a title, it isn't one you should feel bound to in any way, and the stereotypes around it aren't always right! It's good to feel not too guilty about yourself.

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  8. I'm also an introvert but an extrovert with the people I know very well. Is that weird? LOL
    Much respect for going to China all by yourself, seriously. I couldn't have do it

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    1. Haha no, I completely understand! I might be shy, but become my best friend and I can be really loud as well!

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  9. I'm definitely an introvert too! I work in a shop (worst kind of job for an introvert!) and at the end of a nine hour shift when I come home I'm always way more exhausted from having to talk to people all day (especially small talk with customers - I'm terrible at small talk!) than from the actual physical work! And I get what you mean about the guilt thing. Anytime I'm invited anywhere and say no, I always feel bad, but I just know that I probably wouldn't have a good time and would just end up feeling awkward.
    Congratulations on going to China on your own though! That's huge! I don't think I could do that, and I'm a few years older than you, so I think that's really brave!

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    1. D: Small talk is the worst because I am left feeling really awkward and I'm generally terrible at it as well. But it is good that you are out there and being social ^^ Yeah, sometimes the guilt is a bit heavy. In the end, though you usually know what is best for you!

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  10. I'm mostly an introvert too. I prefer staying home to going out. I've never been a fan of parties or big crowds.

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    1. Yeah, sometimes big crowds or really loud parties can be too much.

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  11. I totally hear you about this girl. I am a complete introvert; although I used to be a lot worse when I was in middle school. One thing I have learned from college is that I cannot hole myself up in my room constantly alone! I've gotten close with my roommates, and in turn, they have changed me for the better! I've begun to open myself up to people, and it's a scary and wonderful feeling. Your trip to China sounds amazing! It's great that you got to have that learning experience. Not only did you have the chance to learn about the country, but you leaned a lot about yourself too- and that is priceless. The older that you get, going to high school and maybe eventually college, you will probably find yourself enjoying people's company more and more. You might always be an introvert, but the thought of being social hopefully will begin to be an exciting idea, instead of a terrifying one! Good luck girl, and as always, I enjoy your posts (:
    Morrighan @ Elysian Fields.

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    1. I think that is a good change! It's good to relish in the alone time, but it's not too good if you are hiding yourself away from society. Yes, I believe the trip was the healthiest thing for me at the time, even though I didn't know it until reflection ;) Thanks so much, Morrighan <3

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  12. Whoa. That's gotta be scary! China all by yourself? But good on you. I know I'll be freaking out the entire time, for sure. I'm more of a social media butterfly than a social butterfly in real life. Two different situations. :)

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    1. Oh yes, I would consider myself more so a social media butterfly as well!

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  13. I am def an introvert as well, and feeling the card about being exhuasted

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    1. It's good to know I'm not the only one!

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  14. Olivia,
    I am introvert and I find that it serves me well. Like you, I can be social when the circumstances require such behavior, but I love reading, writing, and baking. All activities that I do alone. Some people are unable to enjoy being alone, which I think is too bad because you can learn alot about yourself when you have time to hear yourself think. Introvert or extrovert, God made us all, warts and all. Many extroverts like to make introverts feel inferior. We are simply different, not inferior.

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    1. Yes, when it comes to being introverted or extroverted, in the end we are all the same and equal to each other. It's nice to be able to enjoy the time you have alone as well, and do activities you love.

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  15. I'm similar to you, yay ! :)
    I rather stay home and curl up like a ball reading books all day long lol. Amazing post!

    Benish | Feminist Reflections

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  16. Oh, I am an introvert and I don't have a problem with it but it's hard especially because the world seems kinda made for extroverts and because many people think that being an introvert is a problem. I love this article on Hello Giggles: http://hellogiggles.com/dont-cure-introvertism
    And I totally get it! YOLO is not going on in the club, for me it's staying in with a lovely book and that's alright!
    Andreea | http://catsfika.blogspot.ro/
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    1. I just read the article and I agree with it too! There is no need to try and change us, our version of fun is just different from extroverts, and that is all there is to it.

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  17. I'm a super proud introvert. But I don't think that I'm necessarily a shy introvert. My mother is also a non-shy introvert and has been training me in the ways of social interaction. :-)

    My sister, on the other hand, is a total extrovert, so I've been really able to compare the two types of people. I see introverts as being people who revitalize by being alone, and using up energy through social interaction. And then extroverts are those who revitalize through social interaction, and use up energy through alone time. That's all there is to it.

    The world, though, is geared for extroverts, so it sees introversion as either 1) shyness, 2) lack of teamwork abilities, or 3) lack of initiative. Which is sad. Because introverts make great leaders, if you let us lead.

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    1. Yes, I think it's pretty cool that we can have non-shy introverts as well. And you're right about the ultimate and pretty much only difference - the way we expend our energy. Introverts can do amazing things. A book called Quiet by Susan Cain, if I got the authors name right, shows this very well.

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    2. Oooh I'll look into that book! Thank you :-)

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  18. I love this article! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I have to say that I am an extreme extrovert. I love being in front of people and surrounded by them. I'm all about going out on a limb to make new friends (even if I make a fool of myself). I do have to say that a lot of the self-proclaimed blogger introverts are a WHOLE LOT less introverted than they think they are. Every one I have met has been just as awesome in person as they are online. I've met some incredible introverts in my day, so I definitely have nothing negative to say on that subject! Great post!

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    1. I have seen much fewer extroverts in the blogger world than introverts, so it is pretty cool to finally meet one! I think it's brilliant that you have such self confidence, because having a lot of friends is well worth it :) Even if you end up making a fool of yourself in some cases!

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  19. I am very social when I know you, so my friends are often surprised that in reality I am very much an introvert. I don't like large crowds or social settings and do much better one on one or if folks come to my home. If I could manage it I would honestly never leave my home.

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    1. I think I am pretty similar. With close friends I can be pretty loud, but with new people I go all shy.

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  20. I'm an introvert to! In fact, I got INFJ too! *high five* I am so happy I am not the only person who finds it hard to go out and socialise. I'll skip things because I just don't feel like I can do it, but then I get the guilt haha. I also need a few days to myself after I do go out and socialise. But I do wish I could push myself to be more extroverted at times. I'm just really bad with people, haha! But... around my friends... I AM SO LOUD! It's so strange, it's just new people that I can't talk around.

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    1. Ooh yay, a fellow INFJ! You are definitely not alone. And yes, sometimes the guilt can be annoying. When I am with friends I get so much louder as well, it's surprising.

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  21. I'm an ENFP, but actually borderline E/I. I'm impressed that you went to China all by yourself - especially when you're so young!! I'm glad that you've figured out that you're perfect just the way you are!

    Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

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    1. Oh, one of my best friends is an ENFP as well!

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  22. What an interesting post! I am an introvert too, but I can be an extrovert when I need to be (like work related things). I think it is impressive that you went to China by yourself at 15! Wow! That takes a lot of bravery. :) It sounds like you learned a lot about yourself too!
    ~Jess

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    1. I think it is fair that introverts can be extroverted sometimes, and more people need to know it! It was a great experience and one I will never forget ^.^

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